How To Keep Love Alive After Baby

Before you and your wife had kids, the sex was pretty good--and reasonably frequent. But now that there's a child (or children) in the picture, you just can't seem to get any physical attention. Your wife just doesn't seem to have time for sex (or maybe interest in it). You're feeling frustrated-and increasingly angry with your wife for holding out.

Does that pretty much sum up your situation? If so, you may already have discovered that criticizing her or complaining about the situation is unlikely to make things any better. Odds are, she is well aware that you feel neglected, and hearing nasty or pathetic comments from you is likely only to deepen her sense of alienation, and yours. To really change things up for the better, you have to change your behavior. Here are seven things to try. Think of your efforts as an adventure, and try to bring a sense of openness and curiosity to it. If you have a chip on your shoulder going in, try to lose it now.

1. Tell her you miss having sex with her. Yes, she probably already knows that you do. But on the off chance that she doesn't, it's a good idea to tell her. Lots of guys assume that their wives intuit that the lack of sex is bothering them. Don't be one of them.

2. Change the way you speak. If you're typically soft-spoken, try to communicate with a little more vigor. If you tend express your needs and wants forcefully, try toning things down a bit. The goal here is to capture her attention, to let her know that you feel ignored.

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