Guys Guide to Getting Married

Gentlemen, the good old days of simply showering and showing up are over.

Today, contemporary grooms are frequently encouraged to take a more proactive plunge. But, fortunately, getting involved is not restricted to simply asking for a larger list of responsibilities from the bride.

That would suck. What sucks considerably less is finding a role that's right for you - one that reduces planning stress for both bride and groom.

Just because we can't cure the common cold doesn't mean we can't cure the common bridezilla. The antidote is a savvy groom who preemptively addresses the elements of wedding planning that most frequently cause fights, diminish the groom's role, demonize the bride, divide families and extinguish the romance of it all.

Even though the typical groom is traditionally responsible for selecting his formalwear and wrangling up his buddies for the bridal party, there's no universal path to successful wedding planning.

Three years ago an old college buddy informed me that he was finally going to pop the question to his longtime girlfriend of nearly six years. Soon after he bought the engagement ring he went hog wild collecting every magazine, book, and DVD with the word "wedding" plastered on it.

Hell-bent on being the best groom he could be, my good friend energetically overwhelmed himself - and his bride - with enough facts, figures, ideas, helpful suggestions, do's and don'ts, and creative tips to short circuit a power plant. In no time at all, he was burned out, she was turned off, and, although they were eventually married, the ceremony came after several delays and months of needless self-made stress.

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